What is the Most Precious Gift We Can Give Our Children?

Kids need our unconditional love and unwavering support AND the freedom to try, fail, and pick themselves up!  In the end, resilience and self-confidence develop when our kids experience hardship, anxiety, and difficulty. Then learn they can move beyond it. Helicopter parenting, along with increased academic expectations, have created some of the most anxious kids we have ever seen. I recently saw a Facebook post from my kids’ pediatrician. Three high performing students, all in one day, had asked for ADHD meds to help them study better. This cartoon hits a little too close to reality!!


One Comment on “What is the Most Precious Gift We Can Give Our Children?”

  1. louise, pulled up your site to get your mailing address; about to send the tax deduction info to you. had never before noticed the blogs… the affluenza issue is something i’ve been reading about, as our society seems to be more and more based on material acquisitions…to the point that christmas is now hitting some stores even before halloween is displayed! the story of the young man and his mama who fled to mexico-i still don’t understand how the jury bought the affluenza argument. the verdict and punishment seem to be just one more layer of enabling for that young man, on top of a lifetime of enabling doled out by his parents. then, mama helps him escape to mexico to avoid a cushy sentence…wow… while i don’t disagree with the concept of affluenza, perhaps society would be better served if the court had sent a message of ‘this is no excuse!’ ??? i find the whole thing fascinating and ridiculous at the same time. i see the symptoms of affluenza parenting all around; it’s present in my own community, as well as, my own family. honestly, it is sometimes hard to be able to give your child almost anything he wants, yet, hold yourself back from doing so because of the bigger picture-i have a God-given role of shaping the character of my son. while i don’t have nearly the resources i once had(pre-divorce), i know that i am still incredibly blessed. wanting so much for my son, i have to sometimes remind myself that the things i want for him and his future don’t revolve around things…and i have to put that _______ back on the shelf at the store…and, that is especially true, as it is now even harder than ever to just spend good time with him, since his time is so restricted because of the whole therapeutic process.
    so, in this world of consume consume consume, where we all seem to judge and be judged by what we wear, what we drive, and, by where we lay our head at night, how do we raise kids who have empathy for those with less than, and, who feel grateful for their many blessings? i have tried to share with wallace the importance of giving back and sharing blessings through some volunteer work, some of which we have done together, but, honestly, that is just a drop in the bucket…and, i feel like i’m fighting an uphill battle. truth be told, we’re definitely swimming against the current, in this attempt! and, honestly, i, too, have to sometimes check my own attitude, as it is so easy to forget the plight of others as i live in my own cozy, insulated world. so, louise, i would love it if you could share some ideas on this whole concept with me…how do we raise kids in today’s world, yet, raise them so their hearts are not of today’s world? how do we parent so our kids appreciate their blessings, along with understanding our responsibility to share our blessings? and, as wallace is now fourteen(closing in on adulthood), how to help our kids, heading towards choosing college majors/careers, to think about success as being defined by more than financial parameters? any advice you could share would be appreciated… also, any blogs you may write about this would be great, too. this is a really tough one that many parents are struggling with today, me included! thank you! angela 🙂
    ps-the cartoon of the little train that couldn’t/didn’t know he could is hilarious!!! lol!

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