Videos from a Trauma & Attachment Conference

May Peach and I attended a Trauma and Attachment Conference at CALO school in Lake of the Ozarks in May. There were several fantastic speakers, one of which is an author and consultant that we very much admire, Heather Forbes.  Here is a link to her website: www.beyondconsequences.com/ We also got to hear a presentation from Ken Huey and other … Read More

Graduates

Minorities and first generation college students often start out with very high hopes and expectations. As they encounter difficulties and a poor grade or demanding professor, the natural tendency is to move from a place of excitement and competence to a place of shame:  I thought I could move beyond my poverty and move up, but I don’t have the … Read More

Flow

I AM the FLOW of the river. Through tributaries, fast water, calm water, oxbows, narrow canyons, deep channels, tree branches, strainers, pluff mud, marsh grass, hornets nests I pass.  Not all of my fellow pilgrims on the river of life go the same route.  God is the FLOW…  There are many ways and streams and turns, but one flow.  I … Read More

School Crossroads

It IS important what school you go to for boarding school and then later college… but not for the name or the prestige, but for the values, the friends made and the learning environment.  Is the school a place where teamwork and compassion for others is important and learning and growing is encouraged?  Or is the school a “cutthroat” kind of environment?  Is … Read More

Motivating Lazy Children

Is your child lazy or overwhelmed?  We have learned, over time, that when parents tell us their kids are “lazy” or “unmotivated,” it is important to look at what is causing the problem.  Kids just don’t get “lazy”– most of us like to learn and want to be successful.  As we listen,  we usually find that somewhere in the history, either there is … Read More

The Perfect “U”

Last week, May and I attended the Small Boarding Schools Association (SBSA) conference.  There was a panel of speakers, all in college admissions, from NC schools that included High Point University, Salem College, Wake Forest University, and UNC Chapel Hill.  WOW!  What a diversity of colleges in terms of size, prestige, private vs. public, elite vs. not.  They all spoke about … Read More

Can You Really Multi-task?

I had never heard the phrase the “Bully in the Brain” but I have certainly gotten to a point, where my phone is dinging, I have calendar requests, and emails are coming at me way too fast!  I felt this way just last week.  My Dad used to tell me “You can only do one thing at a time.”  Now… … Read More

Teens and Prescription Drugs

Alarming statistic:  1 in 4 teens admit to using prescription drugs that are not prescribed for them. We are seeing more opiate abuse in our part of the country. National Survey Finds Big Jump in Teen Abuse of Prescription Drugs By: Rick Nauert PhD   Senior News Editor Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on April 24, 2013 A new … Read More

Book Review: Not By Chance

Not By Chance by Tim R. Thayne, Ph. D. Aftercare is Not An After Thought In 2006, Tim Thayne made a presentation at a national convention about why therapeutic organizations needed to step up and work on doing a better job at transitioning students home after treatment.  His ideas were refreshing and novel. He believed strongly that in order for … Read More

‘Tiger Mom’ Defends New Book on TODAY

This article and new book bring up some controversial but compelling things to think about!  What makes a student “highly motivated”??  What makes another student less motivated? We tend to work with students who struggle with low motivation, substance abuse, learning differences, and ADHD, which impacts impulse control negatively. In the book the Triple Threat, Amy Chua, known for her Tiger Mom … Read More