Book Review–The Emperor’s New Drugs by: Irving Kirsch

  My son went to a new psychiatrist who told him that after prescribing antidepressants for years and also believing that depression, at least in part, is caused by a chemical imbalance, he had decided to do more research. He had come to the conclusion that there was no clear evidence that antidepressants were more clinically effective than placebos! He … Read More

Helicopter Teacher

I know we have all heard the phrase “helicopter parents” but have you heard the phrase “helicopter teachers”? This article describes how the students of this generation are so focused on grades and performance. They expect each teacher to “spell out” or specifically tell them what is required in a paper so they can get a good grade. What happened … Read More

NDD: Nature Deficit Disorder

Nature Deficit Disorder (NDD) is a term coined by Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods. May and I sometimes find that when we recommend wilderness therapy as a first step in a series of interventions for an adolescent or young adult, the home therapist will strongly disagree with our recommendation! They will say things like: “this child … Read More

What is Enmeshment?

This week I asked a grandfather to look up the term enmeshment, referring to the relationship between his son and grandson. Interestingly, he was able to see that he was also enmeshed and that this characteristic of unhealthy boundaries and an inability to separate emotions between him and his son had caused family issues for many years. This blog below, … Read More

Videos from a Trauma & Attachment Conference

May Peach and I attended a Trauma and Attachment Conference at CALO school in Lake of the Ozarks in May. There were several fantastic speakers, one of which is an author and consultant that we very much admire, Heather Forbes.  Here is a link to her website: www.beyondconsequences.com/ We also got to hear a presentation from Ken Huey and other … Read More

Flow

I AM the FLOW of the river. Through tributaries, fast water, calm water, oxbows, narrow canyons, deep channels, tree branches, strainers, pluff mud, marsh grass, hornets nests I pass.  Not all of my fellow pilgrims on the river of life go the same route.  God is the FLOW…  There are many ways and streams and turns, but one flow.  I … Read More

School Crossroads

It IS important what school you go to for boarding school and then later college… but not for the name or the prestige, but for the values, the friends made and the learning environment.  Is the school a place where teamwork and compassion for others is important and learning and growing is encouraged?  Or is the school a “cutthroat” kind of environment?  Is … Read More

Motivating Lazy Children

Is your child lazy or overwhelmed?  We have learned, over time, that when parents tell us their kids are “lazy” or “unmotivated,” it is important to look at what is causing the problem.  Kids just don’t get “lazy”– most of us like to learn and want to be successful.  As we listen,  we usually find that somewhere in the history, either there is … Read More

Can You Really Multi-task?

I had never heard the phrase the “Bully in the Brain” but I have certainly gotten to a point, where my phone is dinging, I have calendar requests, and emails are coming at me way too fast!  I felt this way just last week.  My Dad used to tell me “You can only do one thing at a time.”  Now… … Read More

Summer and Gap Year Options

May and I like this particular firm for both summer and gap year options!  Have you thought about how to help your child learn as much in the summer as he/she does in the winter? Especially hands on, active learning? It’s February. The snow is falling. It’s time to plan ahead for the summer. Where There Be Dragons – Summer … Read More